LOOK BEFORE YOU LEAP

Hey friends, just imagine that you are giving a speech or taking to someone or just discussing about something. Amidst all these the other person is just giving you a dumb look or opposing to whatever you say or dominating you with a louder voice or just not listening to you. How will you feel at that moment of time? Surely you will feel miserable and be confused whether to continue or not. So, it is as much important to be a good listener as it is to be a good speaker. Anything said does not yield any result or it is not fruitful unless one listens to it properly.

But then neither the art of listening is taught in school nor do you inherit it from your parents, instead you have to cultivate it. So, here I am with five golden rules that will make you a good listener.

RULE 1
Listen exercising your whole body. Speaking dialogues is not enough, you need to show the same through actions in the same way. To substantiate if anything sounds funny express it through your facial expression or if you agree to something mere nod will do. If you don’t understand raise your eyebrows and shoulders which are important while listening. Maintain eye contact and honestly express what you feel.

RULE 2
Speak in between only if it is necessary, just as a driver uses breaks and horn for a perfect driving. Yu can say ‘yes’, ‘OK’, ‘ya’, ‘beg your pardon’ or ‘please repeat’, ‘can you be a bit louder’, etc.

RULE 3
Repeat your message just as replays are shown during cricket matches. If you fail to understand the meaning properly, then you can request the speaker to go back and repeat everything in detail. In case you do not agree to something express it in cool manner.

RULE 4
Understand the message, not merely words. If your friend suddenly invites you for a dinner, understand the message behind it. Whether he really wants to meet you or needs some kind of favour or something else. This rule helps you to understand what is unsaid or said indirectly. Facial expressions, eye contact, touch and body language will help you understand this rule. But then don’t jump to conclusions.

RULE 5
If you are listening to a speech then make a summary of all the important points in your mind and think about it.
So, next time don’t blame your ears that you did not listen, blame yourself.